Tuesday, May 3, 2011

They see me rollin', they hatin'

I think you'd definitely have heard of the quotes "Haters gonna hate" and "Haters make you famous" and you might have used those quotes yourself before. But how much do you believe in it?

The next moment when some anonymous (especially for those with formspring accounts) goes like "You're fugly!!!!" "You're so fat!!!" "Do something about your face it's hideous!!!!!!" "You think you're so pretty? You're fucking ugly please look at your reflection" etc, you get SUPER affected.
Don't deny this. I'm sure it has happened to everyone before.
For normal people like us, we have one or two, or five haters. Those famous people and well-known celebrities definitely have it worse!

Everyone has haters.
I mean EVERYONE, big or small!
And it's made even easier for someone to be flamed with all the online platforms,blogs and formspring and all.
Whether or not you own a personal private blog meant only for friends, or a public one with controversial issues, there're bound to be haters. And some people even hate on others' facebook or twitter, lame -.-

But trust me, if you've met with haters before, chances are that the fault DOES NOT lie with you!!!
(unless you're like Steven Lim....... *barf* LOL)

Anyway, even the most likeable, most adorable, most non-offensive, most innocent, most capable and most good looking people have haters.
Like even Garfield! It's a friggin fictional character, which has been part of so many people's childhoodm but apparently he has some crazy ass obsessive hater here: http://www.badmouth.net/burn-garfield-burn/

And to most of us, we let haters affect us way easier than people who love and care for us.
Like if 10 people tell you "you're so pretty", you probably forget it a lot faster than if a hater says "you're fugly your eyes so small you so fat".


[heyt] Show IPAverb, hat·ed, hat·ing, noun
–verb (used with object)
to dislike intensely or passionately; feel extreme aversion foror extreme hostility toward; detest: to hate the enemy; tohate bigotry.

Look at the words "intensely or passionately". Hate is an extreme feeling towards someone, it shares the same elements as Love.
I read this quote somewhere which I think is damn true. The opposite of love isn't hate, it is indifference. Because when you hate someone, you still care.
Otherwise why do you think the same hate comments keep reappearing on your comment box?
It's because these haters care to keep coming back to read what you have to say! And by visiting your page, they are contributing to your site's hits plus if they leave a comment, they add on to the number of comments you receive!

So actually having haters aren't such a bad thing. It's just like having supporters who aren't really good at expressing themselves!
So if you're being spammed by haters, don't feel too bad sweethearts, at least people still care to visit your page, right? ^^

And with regards to what I said above that the fault that you're being hated isn't yours, it's because 99.99% (unproven statistics, but you get my drift) of the haters hate for all the wrong reasons!

Why people hate others:

1. They hate someone whom they really wish to love, but whom they cannot love. That is a disguised form of love.
I've known numerous guys who go like "wah that girl's such an angel" "she's perfect" when they first like this particular girl. And when that girl rejects them, they go like "she's such a bitch!" "i hate her she's such a slut who the fuck does she think she is?!"
And I'll just laugh at them and tell them to get over it. Cause they're hating on the girl and bad-mouthing her just because they can't get her. Imagine if she'd accepted them, they'll be praising her to the skies for sure!

Coincidentally, just only yesterday this appeared on my formspring:


-.- not funny at all. my formspring is a sacred all girls' space. no room for guys, what more perverted sickos.

since you're so desperate, you should go fuck your grandmother since you're in the same house as her, how convenient.

So if you do have any haters on your formspring, they might be guys who're annoyed that you rejected them, or they might be girls who really want to be your friends but you didn't exactly wish to reciprocate.
Either way, remember that they LIKED you first before they hate you.
At least you're likeable from the start? :p

2. People hate what they fear or feel threatened about.
There exists this group of people whom when they feel threatened about someone who's better than them, reacts in the most negative fashion which does not benefit them at all.
I mean if you're threatened about someone being better than you, wake the fuck up and work harder so you can win that person again instead of wasting your time being a keyboard warrior spamming her formspring and contributing to her bloghits while she's probably out enjoying her life? Dumb or what.
Hatred is the coward's revenge for being intimidated. Some people choose to hate because they don't have the courage to make the attempt to surpass the one they hate.
At the end of the day, while you're busy improving yourself, your hater will be stuck on the same spot, still obsessed over you and still contributing to your bloghits.
Hate is too great a burden to bear. It injures the hater more than it injures the hated.
So.... YOU WIN! :)

Remember when I said that this video of mine got a hate comment within 5 minutes of when I posted it up? God damn the hater must be a huuuuuge stalker!

Hater (first to comment on the video!!!) said:

4 words! Slut , whore, irritating, ugly.

3 words! Attention seeking bitch!

2 words! Fuck off!

1 word! BITCH!

My friends said:

since you hate on her so much why are you here?

you should be the one fucking off

Please don't embarrass yourself and make yourself scarce

We are all here for a reason, we love Rachell. Why are you here? You love her but you can't stand yourself being on a lower status than her. Cheers on that :)

3. It's easy to hate what we don't understand
Haters hate you because they are quick to place a label on you. It's the same as when we don't understand Math problems, we end up giving up and going like "I hate Math!!!" instead of spending time understanding it and solving it.
But if you think about it, Math isn't an entirely terrible or evil thing, it definitely would have contributed to Mankind in millions of ways and is considered damn friggin awesome to many people, just that it probably does not occur to some of us in that way.
So in this case, Math = You. You have your own good points and your own worth, just that the haters are too lazy to understand who you really are.
So my point is that if you have met with haters, chances are that there is NOTHING wrong with the very person you are! It's just them who are jealous when you get attention, and just because they don't understand your worth, they think that you don't deserve it.

And anyway, in most cases when you get spammed with hateful comments, it's most likely just 1 hater with her bestfriend (bestfriends stick together even if it doesn't make sense at all) pretending to be 999999 other people who hate you. So don't be too affected and tweet "The whole world hates me". No, they don't!!

And if there are people who hate you, there must be a whole lot more people who love you!
Just that it's human nature to be able to express negative feelings more easily than positive feelings. It's easier to say "Ew she's ugly" then "Wow she's actually quite a nice girl".
So don't believe everything you see cause you haven't even seen the full picture yet, not even half!!

I've seen a lot of girls who are affected by mean comments every single day and it kills their self-esteem so badly. And it upsets me that they don't believe it when I tell them they're beautiful, but they choose to believe some anonymous coward who don't even have the balls to leave their names behind when they say they're ugly.

I used to be just like that. Hated though I did nothing wrong to anyone, being insulted for having small eyes, being criticised by a bunch of Malay girls (not all, just a group of them who disliked me) online saying "Chinese girl step scene kid so fucking ugly", having comments about me being a slut and asking me to stop acting chio. It used to bug me a whole damn lot. And I've closed my blog twice.
But I guess at some point in life (when you get old like me) you'll realise that enough is enough. No matter what you do, right or wrong, how many people you try to please, there will be people who always have something negative to say. So you might as well just do what you like and fuck the world!

If you've looked through my Formspring, I answer my questions very selectively (only the nice and polite ones) and am rarely affected by mean comments. I've received questions about how I deal with my share of haters, so here's what I usually would do, and will advise for you to do as well:
1. Do NOT have open tagboards or comment boxes where everything is accepted at once. This induces spam and also bo liao people who thinks it's damn funny to leave mean comments.
2. When you receive any hate comments, DELETE THEM ON SIGHT. If you keep them in your inbox, the next time you log in to your accountm you'll see them again and be affected again. You'll only be hurting yourself. So just DELETE.
3. NEVER, EVER respond to a hate comment. Especially on Formspring. The more you try to argue with them and try to reply with some witty comeback, the more the hater thinks that you'll bother to give him/her the attention he/she craves for. And trust me, they will keep coming back. Just ignore them and let them waste their time leaving comments while you happily ignore them and their comments will never be published. LOL confirm make them feel like like loser sia :p

And this is my favourite life quote of all time:
People who matter don't mind, people who mind don't matter.

Those anons who leave terrible comments are probably people who are totally insignificant in your life. Why would you even bother spending any amount of time on them? Life is too short for so much negativity.
Instead, keep those people who accept you for who you are and don't mind your flaws (EVERYONE HAS FLAWS PLS!) close to you cause ultimately they're the ones you should be spending your life with. Not the anonymous keyboard warriors.

So chin up sweethearts and don't be afraid to be who you are and do what you like!
It is better to be hated for who you are, than to be loved for someone you are not.


1 comment:

John Marcotte said...

Still hate Garfield. Thanks for the link, though.